Things I have learned on my own

Things I have learned:

1). I have raised my kids the best I can and hopefully they make the right decisions. And when it comes to me, it is my turn to live my life the way I want to...even if they don't agree with some of the decisions I make.

2). When in a relationship, do not put your kids or step-kids in the middle of your problems. It only makes things worse. Decide to work things out between the two of you and don't ask for the kids opinions on the matter. They will give you advice and it may not be the best.

3). Don't let money come between you. A relationship is hard enough to make work let alone add budgetary woes to your troubles.

4). Love 100%. Relationships aren't a 50/50 breakdown.

5). Trust in God. Things have a way of working out. Maybe not in the time frame you think it should but they will. (This is the hardest for me to follow.)

6). People make mistakes. Learn to forgive and work at fixing the mistakes. An old friend used to say it isn't whether you have a problem today it's whether or not it was the same problem you had yesterday.  (I have had to learn this one the hard way.)


7). Love is the greatest gift you can give and receive. When you find that one person, don't blow it, don't take them or your relationship for granted.


8). Be kind, don't call each other names, share, and play nice. If you don't, it may come back to bite you.


9). Love doesn't always end when a relationship does. Be patient. (This one is very difficult for me.)


10). Love each other as if there is no tomorrow because for all we know there might not be one.


Yesterday was Ash Wednesday which as you know is the beginning of Lent which signifies a period of sober reflection, self-examination, and spiritual redirection. So I am going to try and let you know what I am learning during this time.

Last night I did go to church and received ashes from Brenda. Despite everything else going on for both of us, I admire her strength as well as other characteristics and attributes. We are both on some kind of journey. I'm just not sure where both of us will end up.